Last week, for me, was pretty shocking and I’ve decided this week is a new start and to try and change my outlook. Hopefully, this post help you do the same.
With the massive blur of International Women’s Day last week, I have been inspired to write a blog post of a somewhat different nature this week. I know I promised it would be back to beauty and fashion but this is something that I think is really important and it close to my heart. Whilst it was great to highlight the amazing things that women do for the day, I think it’s really important to remember that every day is your day whether you’re a man, woman, or anyone for that matter.
I’ve decided to draw up a few points about the things I try to do to make others feel better and maybe eventually, myself too.
You’ll have to excuse me if this post gets a bit deep and meaningful; bare with!
1. Treat others how you wish to be treated
This is something that’s so simple but people always seem to forget. Personally, I want to be treated fairly, with love, and with respect and so I will always try my best to treat others in that way. It’s always easier said than done and by no means am I saying you should get along with everyone you meet, but starting with the people you really care about it always a great place to begin. You’ll notice throughout this post that a lot of these ideas will hopefully also benefit you too. This is because I think that treating others with understanding, and with respect, and with kindness, maybe somewhere down the line will be reciprocated meaning that not only will you be treating other people with value, but they may do the same for you; making you feel better.
2. Being unapologetically ‘you’
I saw a tweet today that read something along the lines of “I hate people that say ‘that’s just how I am’ and make no effort to at least try to change the bad stuff” and it really angered me. What is the point in trying to change for someone? Talking from experience, trying to change to fit in or so that other people will like you, makes you forget who you are and if someone doesn’t like you because of who you are, move on to find someone else that will. Wear what you want to, believe in what you want to, do the things that you want to, because that is what is going to make you happy. Trying to fit in is exhausting and no two people are the same so just do ‘you’ and do it to your best. Anyone that tries to make you feel less should maybe change their attitude! This also works the other way, let others do their ‘thing’ too, it will just make the world turn a lot easier that way. I watched a video from Louise Pentland a couple of days ago about not apologising for not being perfect and it made so much sense – it’s doing brilliantly well and 100% worth a watch if you have a moment (click here).
3. Show the great things in others
Making someone else feel good about themselves is something that makes me feel good. If a girl’s ass looks good in a pair of jeans, tell her! If you like his outfit, or his hair, or his shoes today, tell him! It will probably make them smile, if not make their day and you can’t put a price on that. For me, it’s among one of the best feelings in the world to feel valued and appreciated and even a smile or a ‘thank you’ has the power to do that. If we all take this mindset, we’d all feel so much better about ourselves and be less likely to drag others down. I also like to think that if karma really is a thing, maybe one day it will work in our favour and someone will say something nice about you and make your day. Just a food for thought.
4. Don’t compare yourself to others
Albert Einstein wrote, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” We all have our strengths and we all have our weaknesses. Don’t waste your time comparing your weakness to someone else’s strength. This is DEFINITELY something I am guilty of but we all have to realise, ‘life is a journey, not a destination’ and therefore we learn as we grow; this is something I’m working on. This is less about building up others but more about building up ourselves but I always think a happier mind is a more tolerant one (!) and so the way we perceive people and deal with situations is likely to be more positive. This also ties back into the whole ‘you do you’ idea and being selfish and concentrating on yourself sometimes is totally okay.
5. Remember what’s important
For me, this is pretty simple. Family and good health. Don’t sweat the small stuff, there’s no point. My Dad once showed me a video of a good analogy for life: a professor takes a jar and the jar represents life, he fills it with golf balls, small stones, sand and a couple of bottles of beer. He says the golf balls represent family and relationships, and the vital things you need to survive; the small stones represent your job, your car etc. – the not-so-vital-but-still-important stuff; then the sand – the minor things, the small stuff. When the sand is finally poured into the jar, there is no doubt it is now full, however, the professor then pours in a couple of beers and says ‘no matter how full your jar (or busy your life), there is always time for a couple of beers with friends’ (click here to watch the video that will probably explain it a bit better than I have! – starts from 00:45). Focus on those golf balls and the smaller stones and the sand will find its place. If you fill your jar with the sand first and sweat the small stuff, there would be no space for the golf balls or the stones – the most important things that matter. A message that really stuck with me.
I feel like I have so much more to write on this topic but I know a really long blog post can always be slightly daunting so I’ll leave it there for now.
I’ve created a Pinterest board of quotes and little sayings that I liked that might help to brighten your day and remind you of your worth (click here).
Lots of love, A xo